That Widow

Day 128 and it’s a learning experience.

I’ve found that people tend to walk on egg shells around me as in they try to censor their conversations. It started when my everyone but me knew my husband was cheating on me and then got progressively worse over the years when he was diagnosed with cancer and now ultimately that he died. People want to not complain about their struggles or try to minimize them by saying “I know it’s not as bad as you’ve had it” which isn’t correct at all. Just because my hard, bad, or struggle looks different from yours does not mean it is less than, it simply means it is different.

I’ve explained this twice in the past couple of weeks to different people who said they feel bad for even bringing up their problems because compared to mine it seems silly. I put a HARD stop to that. If anything it makes me feel human that I can listen, and possibly help, them in what they are struggling with. It also takes the spotlight off of me and I don’t have to talk about the same things over and over again. It’s a nice break. Everyone struggles so let’s stop comparing and start finding strength is asking others to listen and help.

Day 128 and Hootie and the Blowfish want to hold your hand and so do I.